The Road not Taken

2009 July 13

“I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”

This is the last stanza from Robert Frost’s most analyzed poem ‘The Road not taken’. Robert Frost and Emily Dickinson are two of my favorite poets. I could always relate to their poems, their take on life and love, and the mystery element in their poems. ‘The Road Not taken’ ends almost similar to Frost’s other renowned poem ‘Stopping by woods on a Snowy Evening’. While idealists would analyze both to be inspiring, it is still not clear if poet intended that way. Perhaps he did, perhaps he didn’t and let the audience perceive the way they wanted. On Road not Taken, Frost asserts,

You have to be careful of that one; it’s a tricky poem – very tricky.

It is indeed a very tricky poem and a reason why it is the most analyzed and interpreted poem. I am not getting into the details of it. Entire poem and its detailed analysis are available here. The premise of this post is the above mentioned stanza. The poet says that out of two roads, he took the less traveled one and it has made all the difference in his life. Now whether it is positive or negative is moot. The usage of ‘sigh’ in the first line could be a sigh of relief or sigh of despair. We will never know.

Have you ever been in such a dilemma; a quandary where you had two options? Which option did you choose? Did you take the popular path or decide to be the trendsetter and choose the less traveled one? Have you ever regretted such major decisions in life? If given a chance would you go back and take the other one?

Looking back I don’t regret much. Even now there are times when I am in a fix and unable to make up my mind. It might be a major one or not so grave one; I think, analyze the pros and cons on major ones and now the inconsequential ones where I have to confront someone, I think about it a little more and sometimes ignore if it doesn’t affect me. I used to be impetuous before and though it had positive as well as negative results, I would like to believe that it was more negative. Now I give it more time and thought. Every decision in life isn’t that easy but then one needs to take the risk.

I consider myself lucky that I can heave a sigh of relief after choosing the less traveled road. Sometimes I do wonder though what it would have been had I chosen the other path? How life would have turned out? Do you all think that way?

The title of the poem is ‘Road not taken’ not ‘Road less traveled’. So may be the author was also thinking about the path that he didn’t take. How would it have been? One wonders! sigh….

A beautiful instrumental odyssey from Rahul Sharma’s Time Traveller,

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On an unrelated note…or is it related? This is actually the ‘road I always shied away from’ :) . After being branded a Dinosaur for not tweeting, I finally took the plunge yesterday. Never been part of any social networking sites so as expected got bored immediately. But now am liking this tweety bird thanks to confused soul…..chirp away.. http://twitter.com/solitalks

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  1. 2009 July 13

    Right now all I’ll say,Sols is I’m lucky and very happy with the way my life has shaped up! Will be back to comment a bit more later…till then
    Goodnight
    have fun blog-chatting & tweeting :D :D

    me: Will wait, Deeps. :)

  2. 2009 July 13

    Ok,just wanted to see if I was the first…so now Hitchy,parey hat I’m learning the art now :D :lol:

    me: I posted when everyone was zzzzz :lol:

    • 2009 July 13

      jaane kaise kaise log hai…
      mature banne ka dhong karte hai…

      par jaise hi first aate hai..
      maa hote hue bhi bache ban jaate hai…

      me:
      Jaane kaise kaise log hain
      First nahin aaye to rote hain
      Pita hote huye bhi bachche se bhi battar ban jaate hain.

      :lol: :lol:

      • 2009 July 13

        Main to man se bacha tha… Bacha hu aur bacha rahuga…
        First aane ki koshish karta tha.. karta hu aur karta rahuga..

        To kyu na sab yeh kabul kare…
        ke sab mujhse jalte hai…

        jab main first aata hu to kehte hai grow up..
        jab khud first aate hai to kehta hai I am up ??

        first first to legend hai crafty aur hithcy ka..
        kyo ban gaya hai yeh ambition sabhi ka…

        me:
        Apni safai mein main bas itna kahti hoon
        kabhi bhi Itchy aur Scratchy ko grow up nahin kaha
        Aise aleeeeeeegasans kyoon kyoon
        Hum dost hain kayamat se kayamant tak khuda gawa

        • 2009 July 13

          arre… tum to senti ho gaye…
          yeh to sirf free time ke hai paintrey…

          aap kehte ho aap dost ho hamesha…
          aur hum to aapko usse zyada samjhe hamesha… !!

          p.s. blame the bad market condition for this head achy shayari’s…

          me:

          Ha..ha..ha..

          Kisi din bachoo aapka sar aur biwi ka belan hoga
          bachane ke liye na bloggers honge na aur logaaa

      • 2009 July 13

        *Mummyyyyy,hitchy ne mujhe bacha bola..wwwaahhh!!*

        Sols,I’m really going to be needing some help on my emoticons….kuch log emoticons ki bhaasha hi samajhte hai :D :D

        me: All WP emoticons now give the same result and that too teeth looks like Aftab Shivdasani’s. I can’t even show my angry face to Vimmy and OG. :(

        • 2009 July 13

          aap to gaye the sone…
          phir kyo aaye comments padhne…

          aap hai india mein
          ya phir foreign mein ??

          • 2009 July 13

            Hitchy,yeh sawaal mujhse ya solilo se??…’Cos now,I think is ‘night,night’ for Sols and I’m approaching midday :D

            • 2009 July 13

              sawaal to aapse tha deeps…
              mil gaya jawab no probs…

              samajhte they aap ko videshi..
              par aap to nikle deshi !!

              • 2009 July 13

                Arre,Hitchy,hum deshi hai,poore man se
                lekin hai videsh mei philhaal tan aur dhan :D
                not so far away though..just about two half hours behind you :)

          • 2009 July 13

            Aaj kal mehfile bahut saj rahi hai
            Lekin shayar bas wahi hai
            Jo first aana bahut chahte hai
            Lekin kabhi Indy se to Kabhi Deeps se maat khate hai
            Humne to kabka yeh shauk tyag diya
            First competetion me ab nahin bhaag liya
            Meri maano to Hitchy aur Crafty, tum bhi
            Yeh jaddojahad chod do
            First aane ka bukhaar utaro,
            Nahin to apna sar phod do!

            lol… finally phew :)

            me:
            Humne itni jattojahad ki
            film ke titles likh daale
            phir bhi koi daad na mili
            ye duniya zaalim hai saale

            :lol: :lol:

            • 2009 July 13

              wah wah kya khoob kahi,Rakesh :) :)

            • 2009 July 13

              Sorry Dhiren bhai, actually I didn’t mean to write this but then while rhyming, this is all that would fit!!!

              • 2009 July 13

                waise aaj to main aaya first yaar…
                yahan nahi par oorja ke blog par…

                waha kiya ekdum umda aur naya dance…
                kabhi kabhi auro ko bhi dena chahiye chance.. !!

                irshaad… !!!

                • 2009 July 13
                  Swaram permalink

                  First nahi aayi main .. lekin aayi to sahi!
                  Kaam chahe jitna bhi ho, blogging ke bina zindagi aage badti hi nahi :P

            • 2009 July 13

              kya baat kahi hai Rakesh!!
              especially the 4th line ;)

              • 2009 July 13

                Bas kya, sirf apna naam search kiya?
                Aur Wah Wah Keh diya!

              • 2009 July 13

                shaayari toh yahaan sabhi ki mashaallah hai
                na yahaan koi sur , naa taal hai par phir bhi shaayari kamaal hai ;)

                hum bhi in tutpunjiye shayaaron ki jamaat mein khade hain
                jaane sab first aane ke peeche hi kyun pade hain? :D

                par aapki shaayri hamein kuch zyaada pasand aayi
                kyunki Indy ka zikr tha usme aur maat kha gaye Dhirenbhai :D

                me:
                No praise for my shayari?
                Humne itni mushkil se ki adayakiiiii :lol:

                • 2009 July 13

                  Dariya dil hai hum…
                  aur khaas ho sabhi tum…

                  sabko dena chahiye mauka…
                  par samay pe maar dena chahiye chauka…

                  usi ko kehte hai legendary …
                  baki to hai all and sundry…

                  • 2009 July 13

                    wah!!wah!!wah!wah!!
                    Dhirenbhai has to be praised bY Indy:) first loyalty to bhai :D

                  • 2009 July 13

                    Aur yaha par bhi Dhiru ne kia zikhar cricket ka!!! :D

                    • 2009 July 13

                      Baitha hoon main bilkul faltooo…
                      Khane main khaya tha gobi aur aloooo…
                      kab tak rahega yeh chaloo…

                • 2009 July 13

                  Indy,couldnt help sneeking in with my own contribution… ;)

                  “par aapki shaayri hamein kuch zyaada pasand aayi
                  kyunki Indy ka zikr tha usme,*jisme Deeps bhi ghus aayi*
                  aur maat kha gaye Dhirenbhai”

                  :lol: :lol:

                  • 2009 July 13

                    jaake kuch kaam kar,pagloo :D !

                    • 2009 July 13

                      Likta hoon main ab ek post…
                      Aur koi kaam nahi kya karu mere dost…

                      dekhte hai kaun aata hai first…
                      jab karuga main post…

                  • 2009 July 13

                    Shukriya Shukriya!!!

                    Bas, That’s it.

                    • 2009 July 13

                      Crafty toh aayee hai sabse late,
                      kehti hoon yeh hai mera bad fate!

                      par hitchu ne jo mehfil saja diya
                      maine toh har verse 2 baar padh liya!

                      bahut huya first ka thrill,
                      ab poetry se hi hum karenge chill!

                      mujhe lagta hain out of fashion yeh dance disco wala
                      ab shayari par classical karke karenge life jingalala!

                      :D

                      me: Jingalala…..that’s cute, bachcha.

                    • 2009 July 13

                      sahi hai crafty bidoo…
                      yeh shayari hai ekdum fultoo…

                      To phir kare change yeh trend…
                      aur banaye set kare yeh naya fashion mere friend…

                      me: Fultoo or Faaltoo?

                  • 2009 July 15

                    I dont mind you sneaking in your contribution Deeps :D
                    it makes our case stronger ;)

        • 2009 July 13
          craftyshines permalink

          *Mummyyyyy,hitchy ne mujhe bacha bola..wwwaahhh!!*

          ROFL! alle cho cute deeps!!!!! :D

  3. 2009 July 13

    me second…………. will read now

  4. 2009 July 13

    yes, the poem leaves a lot of questions as you say……….

    personally for me, the road I have taken always works out pretty well in the end…….
    most of the times, I take the “road more travelled on”…… but at times, I do not mind taking the “road less travelled”………….

    good analysis…. and the video was good…… :P

    and I can never take a decision based on cold logic…… it has to be what my instincts and heart tell me…………………..
    I have got into trouble a few times thanks to that but things always settle in the end……

    me: Me too but nowadays I am not that impulsive. I read the situation well and then act.

    So you have also started twittering……….. I dont think I have to band width to do it……… :P :P :P seems interesting……….
    after all, “don OG” cannot twitter, what will happen to his image? hehehehehehehehe

    me: Yeah…yeah I can see this new don with his black shades and what’s that? A bulb on your head? To give you some “brightness”. Muahahaha :twisted:

    Every Don is on twitter. :D

    • 2009 July 13

      that is not a bulb near my head……. that is “enlightenment”!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :P :P :P :P

      me: Yeah..you need that bulb from outside. The one in the head is loose connection. :twisted:

      • 2009 July 13

        or should i say, “Wise OG”………….. :D

        me: Wise?? ‘Fused OG’. :twisted:

      • 2009 July 13

        ROFL……………… hmmm, mere words will not win you the war!!!!! buhahahaha, as you would laugh :P :P :P

        me: My words are enough to win the war. :twisted:

        So what if you are a 6 footer. I will bring a stool, hop on it and fight. Remember I know Taekwondo. :D

        • 2009 July 13

          Taekwondo………hmmmmm okay,
          as the great mohanlal said in a film,
          “enikku naadan adi mataram ariyithillu. athene gompetition ellatha karanam, “Gup” onnum kittitilla”………..
          (the only fighting style I know is “naadan” style. Since there is no competition for that, I have not got any “cups”)…………..

          :P :P :P :P :P :P hahahahahahahahaha

          me: I didn’t get ‘gup’. What’s that?

          Anyways…I know naadan too. So Taekwondo + naadan. :lol:

        • 2009 July 13

          rofl!! Solilo I actually imagined you on a stool and practicing your taekwondo moves on OG :D

          me: :lol:

  5. 2009 July 13

    Thats a brilliant question but I didn’t have options before me.. I had only one option and I am a SE right now… I can’t say I am sad right now.. I am happy with the things I got but I also believe that there are better things I can do :)

    me: It is also good when we try to find the bright side in the situation we are in. :)

    I must develop the courage to take the “road less travelled” :)

  6. 2009 July 13

    I absolutely love this poem too. It somehow speaks to me, especially since I have been unconventional most of my life. Do I regret the decisions, no I think not. Happy to be where I am. Surprisingly enough, I was just planning a post on it. Lovely post Solilo!

    me: You were? Go for it, GM.

  7. 2009 July 13

    ‘I took the one less traveled by,
    And that has made all the difference.’ This poem is so beautiful.. As for decisions, I have taken both roads less travelled as well as the tried and tested.. And to be honest, I don’t have too many regrets.. all in all..

    But yes, I think I was a lot more impetuous too, earlier. I do think I have mellowed down quite a bit.. and now, a lot of my decisions are more conservative – roads more travelled, rather than roads less travelled.

    me: It happens, Smitha when we are responsible for bigger decisions for entire family.

    Congratulations on getting on the twitter bandwagon :) I created a login , some time back – but as OG says, I just don’t have the bandwidth :( I have decided that I can’t afford another addiction :)

    me: Ha..ha..ha…

  8. 2009 July 13
    Vimmuuu permalink

    Which roads are you talking about??? Why didnt you publish the google map links along with the post?

    me: *Solilo hitting her head on the wall* :evil:

    Nice video; listening to it first time.

    me: Rahul Sharma is good.

    • 2009 July 13

      yeah sololiya, I second Vimmuuu’s question :mrgreen:

      me: I am not surprised Shakaal-OG. :twisted:

    • 2009 July 13

      @Solilo
      trust him to come up with something quirky for something as this too! :P lol…

      me: These two are bundlebaaj. :D

    • 2009 July 13

      Classic Vimmuuuu ! :D
      See? Vimmuuu this is wayy better than being shakaal or mogambo na?
      *hoping to convert Vimmuuu froma devil into a nice guy* :D

  9. 2009 July 13
    anrosh permalink

    i have kept away from this because i still am trying to find a rationalistic answer, because i like not to bombared with tweets. ( ( it sounds so modern vintage )spam and all those ad emails are already piling the inboxes of so many email boxes.
    may be tweets are another form of PR. Differnt platform for generating revenues ( in all its senses ) – otherwise we will forget to live a line offline!?.
    it is here to stay ..and i am buying time

    yes when phones cannot reach, if tweets are the answer, so be it.

    me: I am ancient when it comes to social networking sites and I dislike them all. A reason why I never bothered Orkut/FB and such. Twitter too bored me yesterday but then it was fun tweeting back and forth with Indyeah. :)

    I realized twitter is just a tiny-miny blog. Instead of posts one can write titles :) . So I find twitter okay compared to other networks though don’t know how long I will stay.

  10. 2009 July 13

    Great post and yea, the poem is fantastic!

    I am not sure if the road I have taken is the most traveled one or the least traveled one…
    But, there have been no major regrets about any major deceision taken so far! :)

    me: And that’s all matters in the end. :)

    Me too not on Twitter… I agree with Smitha and OG – not enough bandwidth and I am not sure how interested I am about it…

  11. 2009 July 13

    This is a question that comes to all of us at some point of time in life or another, and more than once: what if? Richard Bach also beautifully speaks of the fallout/outcome of choices, but very differently in “One”.

    Often the road taken becomes as fateful as the one taken by Frost did. But you get to know that later only sometimes. That is the joy, the mystery, the frustration and the fun of life. Sometimes one feels that while one believes that one took one road after much calculation and deliberation, one had actually no choice or control over that life-changing decision…

    me: Very well said, Mr. Sharma.

  12. 2009 July 13

    I took the road less travelled by in my life. In fact I’m currently on its rocky road… It’s not easy… I didn’t know it would be this hard, but had I known also, I would still have taken it, because it’s the only way to grow. To achieve one’s highest potential…its the only way.

    And it’s a long road,
    It’s often lonely…but you learn to be your own best friend.
    It’s rocky but that only makes you overcome obstacles.
    It’s twisted but that only makes you realise that honesty and straight-forwardness are the easiest way to go.
    It’s scary, but that only makes you more and more fearless in all your doings, makes you brave enought to stand up for whats right. For yourself and for someone who isn’t as brave.
    It’s got potholes in it…a lot of potholes, but they only serve to make you more resourceful and have faith, that where there is a pothole, there’s also a ladder nearby to climb out of it.
    There maybe a few like minded travellers out there, and they will pull you along when you get tired, they will remind you, how amazing it feels, to make it, all on your own.

    Yes, for all its pain, the road less travelled is the only one worth taking…

    me: Coffee, I simply LOVE your response. Stirring!

  13. 2009 July 13

    Oh no… these poems really make me feel very uncomfortable… !!

    these are some uncomfortable questions.. but have to be answered nevertheless.. i guess…

    I m not in a profession that I like… Even rite now I m at a cross roads and unable to decide… Market conditions are also so bad… changing careers ke liye its a bad time…

    Hope I & wife will be able to take a right decision… !!

    me: Amen. :)

  14. 2009 July 13

    A beautiful poem Solilo…I actually don’t think too much before making a decision – I do whatever feels right and life has turned out OK (till now)…If I think too hard and too long I can’t decide so I go with my gut feeling…

    me: I am more or less like you, Bones. Though these days, I do give a lot of thought on some very important decisions.

    I’m a dinosaur ’cause I still don’t know how to twitter…

    me: Ha..ha.. I still am even though I am already on it.

    I hated it yesterday and actually cancelled it. Then again went back and second time I actually liked it because now I can access lot more news under one roof.

  15. 2009 July 13

    these two lines are among my absolute favourites. and i completely identify with them, considering i m a person who more often than not follows the road less travelled. there is a novelty in that, and usually leads to surprising results. i always follow logic while making decisions rather than emotions. there were this couple odd times i followed instinct rather than logic …. no regrets to any decision taken so far in my life. and i hope there wont any in the future too.

    me: Amen to that. :)

    i have the CD of rahul sharma’s album… was there at the press conference of this being released. he played this one live there for starters. love the way he plays with instruments… no surprise there with him being Santoor maestro Pandit Shiv Kumar Sharma’s son i guess…

    me: Oh! you were? Lucky girl! Rahul Sharma is genius. After all ‘the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree’. :)

    first time seeing the video of the song… well made, i’d say. and yes, suiting the tone of the post… :-)

    • 2009 July 13

      oh btw… i m STILL a dinosaur… twitter is not really my playground :D
      not YET, anyway!

  16. 2009 July 13

    Did you take the popular path or decide to be the trendsetter and choose the less traveled one?
    yes, in a sense i have taken a not-so-popular option.. they arent too many social workers in my family , u see…in fact there are none besides me! :D im generally happy with what i chose.. but there are times i wonder wat wud have happened if i chose to be an architect or a baker( those are the other two professions that appeal to me) i might have been richer, but not sure if i wud have been happier.

    me: Take it from me, you can be happier and be an architect and a social worker at the same time. :)
    But I am glad that you don’t regret and that is more important.

    so now u too are on twitter??where do u guys find the tiiiiiime!?

    me: The motto of my life is that every person in this world has only 24 hrs. Still you see some over achievers, some non achievers……..How I make use of my 24 hrs is up to my ability. I can, so I blog and tweet (now); tomorrow when I am unable to.. I won’t. Hai na simple? ;)

    im not a fan of poems.. i cant appreciate them as much as i can appreciate prose. having said that, i admit this particular poem is great.. i remember reading it in school..

  17. 2009 July 13

    herez a Q for u(and everyone else on twitter).. how is twitter any different from the status line on ur FB page??? it all seems the same to me!!:P

    me: I never joined FB/Orkut because never felt the need to. Twitter too..I won’t say it is all that. I just liked the fact that I get updates on news and the things I have subscribed for. I don’t know if it is there in Orkut/FB.

    • 2009 July 13

      Twitter… oh… I m just barely able to understand FB !! actually I just use it a photo sharing too FB and orkut both.. I just dont understand an iota when some one says someone likes something or some one sends me a tree or a flirt or a poke…

      I mean whats this.. online poke.. ?? beyond the aam aadmi me… !!

      me: What’s that? I saw something like nudge on Twitter. ‘Give me a nudge if I don’t post within 24 hrs’ something.. Ha..ha..ha..

      blog is modern enough for me… twitter… !! I aint even thinking… no more addictions.. one is enough !!

      • 2009 July 14

        aaarghhhh!! there is nudging on Twitter too? :/

        me: No. Not that kind. There is an option which you can check so it reminds you that you need to tweet. Keep it unchecked. :D

      • 2009 July 15

        really, all this social networking is giving us less time to communicate with those close to us…On the other side it also brings you closer to good human beings through the net…what say, Solilo?This somment is for this thread, the rest for the blog is coming….

        me: I don’t know, Sindhu. I am on it because I can take time out to be on it. :)

      • 2009 July 15

        really, all this social networking is giving us less time to communicate with those close to us…On the other side it also brings you closer to good human beings through the net…what say, Solilo?This comment is for this thread, the rest for the blog is coming….

  18. 2009 July 13

    I somehow don’t enjoy poetry too much! This one is different though. Coz. its got universal appeal I guess. Almost everyone is at crossroads sometime or the other.

    me: Rakesh, I too am not a huge fan of “complicated” poetry though I write sometimes but I am more inspired by Frost and Dickinson. Then I am a huge fan of loads of Hindi poets and doha etc. I still remember lots of Hindi ones that we learned in school.

    I for one, think am lucky enough that life has turned out to be brilliant so have never really thought about the roads I didn’t take.

    me: That’s great. :)

    PS. And I’m still a dinasour you mean? Actually, I’m not even on facebook. What does that make me?

    me: We are old, Rakesh. We are old. :lol: I am still checking twitter. It is okay but I still feel like a dinosaur. :)

    • 2009 July 13

      Old? Talk about yourself… Puhleaseee Not Meeeee *said in that tea party HS style*

      me: Ha..ha..ha.. expected this reaction. :D

  19. 2009 July 13

    Its a beautiful poem,Solilo.Yes there have been times when I have gone on the retrospective mode and thought what if I had taken a certain path?Would my life have been any different from what it is now?Maybe a little different as I feel no two paths can be alike.But I firmly believe my life wouldn’t have been better or happier than it is now.I’ve had my share of hiccups in my life and in a way I feel they helped me become a wiser and a stronger person and I’m happy with the decisions that I have made so far.
    Sols,I was a demure reticent kind of a person before but post marriage,thanks t

    me: edited: oh! you continued in next comment. :)

    Deeps, but you know..just once..don’t you even think how the other path would have been. Unless we have taken that, we would never know. There is no way to know.

    • 2009 July 13

      The teacher path,you mean..oh no I would have been a huge letdown for my ma :D
      Although I’ll be close to treading that path when Namnam starts her school…God knows how well I’ll take that up :lol:

  20. 2009 July 13

    I am familiar with these lines . But so far, I have taken the road more traveled by . But that time is coming and coming soon, the time to decide upon my final career choice and wife .

    me: Final wife? :D

    • 2009 July 14

      How DO you get into these jams Kislay?
      First that one comment long back about three women and now this :D

      me: Ha..ha..ha..

      • 2009 July 14

        Comment about three woman ? Confused !

        I am still a member , I hope of some standing , in our gang . I saw the comment . :)

        me: We are 3 angels. Indya-Soliya-Kislya :angel: :angel: :angel:

    • 2009 July 14

      :D

  21. 2009 July 13

    Oops…I couldnt finish my message!!!

    Sols,I was a demure reticent kind of a person before but post marriage,thanks to my husband I’ve become more assertive and surer of myself.He has really encouraged me to come out my own-created-shell to open up.

    me: That’s so nice, Deeps.

    You know,my mom is a teacher.So she had this desire to see me take up that profession but I was so influenced by my father that I chose to be in the travel industry.My father,who worked in the aviation industry,used to always share his experiences about his line of work and I remember how affected I used to be.And now on hindsight I feel that was the right path.I wouldnt have made even half as good a teacher as my ma. I didnt have the passion for it.

    me: I don’t know why but all this while I thought you were also a defence kid like Indyeah and me. I think I confused you with another blogger. :)

    Just earlier today I was narrating my experience on Teacher’s Day where we had to don a teacher’s role and teach a class. Gosh! I was one of the worst.

    So thats how I see.My journey so far has been contentful :)

    Hey,Rahul sharma is one of my favourites.And this particular piece is beautiful.I’ve lost track of the no of times I’ve listened to it.Have you listened to his “White”? That was what I used to listen when I was pregnant with Namnam. Its magical :)

    me: Is it in the milky way? I have listened to that..not recently though. I love instrumental music. Have a huge collection. :)

    • 2009 July 13

      I meant his Album ‘WHITE’,Sols. Strangely its not listed on you tube else I would have linked it up for you. All his renditions in the album are soothing and pleasing. Do hear them if you havent,I’m sure you’ll love them :)

      me: Oh! I thought you were talking about a song in his album Milky Way.

  22. 2009 July 13

    I would like to think that make calculated decisions, i choose paths which are somewhere between what i would ideally want to do and what those who matter to me would like me to choose. Like someone said above, i also dont analyse if they are the roads less taken or otherwise.. (Maybe I am not a thinker, for that matter) but call it good luck or me not being over ambitious, its been working good so far.
    but whatever be the case, the decisions are never inspired by the fact that its a well known popular one, for sure.. Infact the rebel or whatever in me says go where nobody goes :P

    me: It is fun to be a rebel sometimes. :)

  23. 2009 July 13

    i love both the peoms by Frost.. :-)

    which road i have taken..? well that is a bit difficult. is there anything wrong in taking the more travelled road. is everyone capable of taking the less travelled road. and if one takes the more travelled road and suceeds is it not a victory…? is is not special. why everyone wants the glory of taking the road less travelled..?

    me: Absolutely not, Oorja. And I have mentioned towards the end that the poem is titled ‘The Road Not taken’ which people misunderstand as ‘The Road less traveled’. The road not taken means simply the other road. So you get all the credit for your success. But just a thought on how it would have been if it was the other path.

    in my life many i have been blesses or rather cursed that i have always been presented with more than one roads all my life. though many a times i have taken the more travelled road,but never regretted them.

    there were chances of the less travelled ones too.. and i haven’t regretted them too..

    what i believe is for any road taken there is a destination and where that journey ends is where another journey begins. so we start all over again with a new road…. that is life..

    me: There you go. :)

  24. 2009 July 13

    wonderful video :) its a question of choosing isn’t it :)

    me: :)

  25. 2009 July 13

    The post begins with a poem. Nice. And it continues… The comment section too starts off with a super collection of poems. Too gud. Solilo, you’re making people take the road less travelled by them, like writing poems.

    me: Ha..ha..ha. I missed shayari session. :)

    Had a gud amount of thinking and came to the following conclusion :
    Whether its the popular path or the road less travelled, I’ve always chosen to do things in what I feel is right. Being a trendsetter is not the goal for me. Major decisions in life – never regretted, as the path I took was the best, according to me.

    me: That’s all that matters.

  26. 2009 July 13

    What a heartfelt post Solilo! This is so you:)
    Beautiful and gives one something to think about.

    me: Thank you, Gillu.

    YEs you are absolutely right.The poem is very tricky. We each perhaps interpret it in our own way.According to wherever we happen to be in life at that particular point of time.

    me: It is and if you read from the beginning then these lines have different meaning.

    Even now there are times when I am in a fix and unable to make up my mind. It might be a major one or not so grave one; I think, analyze the pros and cons on major ones and now the inconsequential ones where I have to confront someone, I think about it a little more and sometimes ignore if it doesn’t affect me. I used to be impetuous before and though it had positive as well as negative results, I would like to believe that it was more negative. Now I give it more time and thought. Every decision in life isn’t that easy but then one needs to take the risk.

    This is me too Solilo.Exacept that uptil now the decisions have been few and far in between.
    But now it looks like there will be too many to make as one goes ahead in life.
    Its scary and at the same time exhilirating.
    To take one’s own decision knowing that all the consequences lie on one’s own shoulders?
    That one cant pin the blame on someone else?

    I jump headfirst into situations (and not ina good way) Fortunately there have always been loved ones..family andd friends both to guide me.
    Have never regretted a single decison in my life and dont plan to :D

    Whichever road I take from this point on will be the one

    And you know what? For all of us the new road , the one we have never travelled on before is the one ‘less travelled’

    me: You are absolutely right. The road not taken becomes the less traveled one for us but you know…it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is less traveled one. Even a popular path could be less traveled. did that make sense? :)

    *touchwood* for, you have made your own road I know, from all that I know of you:)

    And so it shall be for anyone with the confidence to take life headon:)

    PS I am enjoying twitter ONLY coz of you..:)

    me: Me too. I was almost going to inactivate but liking it mostly because I am getting instant updates without going to various sites and also some fun with friends.

    Chirag coaxed me to join ANd now Poonam is another one whom I can be in touch with:)

  27. 2009 July 13

    Sometimes a road is less travelled for a reason. ;)

    Seriously, both of them are my famous poets. Sometimes though I can’t understand Emily Dickinson too much, I think knowing a background of poem helps. Do you know any such resources?

    me: Emily Dickinson is complex. Her poems reflect her personality. Dickinson just wrote simple lines yet so complex and never even bothered to add a title to her poems. Poonam, I have some links saved on my other laptop. Will send you those if you want. Hope now you are all settled. Missed you. :)

    And will join you at twitter, my twiiter ID is _alps. Cya there! :)

    me: Sure :)

  28. 2009 July 13

    I will curtail myself strictly to a small comment, Solilo! I was a complete introvert before marriage. My marriage changed me completely. I was nervous in the beginning, even to talk to my husband – ours was supposed to be a love marriage and arranged marriage, like 50-50! Agreeing for this marriage itself was a big decision!

    My husband had a good job and when the second child was 3, he took a BIG decision to start business, both of us were involved. The biradari said we will not survive, but we did and are doing well. That too was a right decision.

    Now, the third phase of our life has started. Hope we are lucky now too.

    me: Amen. :)

    The poem you quoted, in the beginning is very apt for this post. I am not very familiar with poems, though.

    I have attended Rahul and his father’s concert, here in Chennai, thrice. They come here every year in our December music festival. Somehow, I like the sound of tabla than the keyboard beats. Am I sounding old?!! But the video is right for this topic.

    me: You are lucky, Sandhya. No..no not old. Whatever soothes our mind.

    Well, thought provoking post – everybody’s mind will rewind in a fast mode after reading the post, Solilo!

  29. 2009 July 13

    Welcome to Twitter. I created an account there last month. Haven’t found it any different and don’t know why the hype!

    me: I don’t know the hype either but finding it uself in getting instant info. Also I find it a mini blog. I mean at times some quotes or lines or a song goes on in my mind and I want to write it down. I don’t really like to make a post out of it. Now I twitter that. :)
    But just thought its time to let myself flow with the drift. Lets see..

    me: Yes…join.

    Me was never into poetry. I’m the ‘twinkle twinkle little star’ types. But your post might just change that. I’m curious to explore this facet of English literature.

    me: Do start with Frost and we can even have poetry discussion session.

    But I can definitely correlate when you say “Sometimes I do wonder though what it would have been had I chosen the other path? How life would have turned out?”

    I believe (a lot) in fate and destiny. And often wonder, after doing something or in this case, after picking up a path, whether this was the destined path? And how would things be had I not chosen this one. But that thought often gets overruled by the belief that this is destined to be this way. Things sometimes don’t work out and I often tell myself, “It was not meant to be”. Ofcourse I don’t use that as an excuse but as a reassuring tool to live my life guilt-free & trouble free. Works fine for me. And luckily have been able to (almost) achieve what I’ve always dreamt off. (The only one left is to be a millionaire before 30!!!) So no complaints! :)

    me: And when you become one don’t forget to give that Biriyani party you promised. :D

  30. 2009 July 13

    Good one, specially Rahul Sharma’s instrumental.. I love his collections!! :)

    me: Welcome here, Manisha. :)

    • 2009 July 15

      Me following u in twitter..!! :)

      me: Added you Manisha. Now we will have some howlarious times discussing that Sony show. :lol:

  31. 2009 July 13
    Swaram permalink

    This post really got me thinking Solilo .. that poem is one of my favs.
    All I know is I have probably taken the road depending on the situations but finally, all’s well that ends well na! I don’t even feel that I shud have taken the alternate one.

    me: That’s good, Swaram.

  32. 2009 July 13

    Food for thought. Glad to see you are tweeting now. Sent you the request hope you approve ;)
    Love love rahul sharma :)
    You might like his “MahaMaaya” as well ..mesmerizing it is !!
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rkunqXtWXHY

    me: I approved just now, Misty. :)

    I listened to that and LOVE it. Thank you sweety.

    • 2009 July 14

      Thanks much Soli and we are able to follow you now !! ;)

      me: Acha..acha stop pulling me legs. :D

      For a change I thought about the thing you wrote :P
      I think I am not much of risk taker . I tend evaluate things in all the cases. In the sense I had to convince myself before I make decisions. Even then it comes with surprises. Life is so much fun then. :) Way to make us learn I suppose. Sometimes when things turn out unlike expected; there will be moments of regrets. but then they have very small shelf life. There is so much to look forward and feel blessed about that regrets just melt by themselves. I somehow believe in the bigger plan thing. It works out so happy ending !! :)

      me: Happy endings are nice. :)

  33. 2009 July 13

    I’ve always (ok, almost always) taken the road less travelled and it’s always been a difficult choice to make. Some of the decisions, I stand by. Some of them, I regret. Life’s a mixed bag, right?

    me: Yes..it is and that’s the fun. :)

  34. 2009 July 13

    Beautiful thoughts. And Frost is my favorite too. Mending Wall is my favorite poem.

    I have had to choose but I am very happy with whatever choices I have made thus far. Most of my choices have been easy. For example, once when I was looking for jobs and running out of patience and getting depressed, a relative suggested I ‘polish’ my resume(basically lie and say I know more stuff and have more experience than I really did) to get more job interviews, and that ‘everyone does that’. But I chose not to, and had to wait another couple of months to find a job that fit me. I might have lost out on a couple of months, but I could sleep at night. Long way of saying, my choices have all been easy ones for me……

    me: Your stand was absolutely right, Shilpa.

    I believe that how much ever people “polish” resume, after a while they fall flat. Never seen such people going far. Fakeness wears off fast in every situation.

  35. 2009 July 13

    I am one of those who keeps thinking about life which I could not have!!! or rather life which I would have loved to have

    Sigh!!!!

    me: Smita, I always think about other choices too. Even if I am content and happy with decisions, I at times think how it would have been on the other path.

  36. 2009 July 13
    craftyshines permalink

    Soli….hugs for this post! super tight hugs! i have so much to say…its pouring out from my ears…..let me just collect it in a bucket and i will splash it at ur comment section…..

    since u are my darlingest soli, i know u will not mind another post in ur comment section, eh?
    muah!

    me: Crafty, {{{Hugs}}} back bachcha. Splash it as much as you want. Apna hi space samjho. :)

    soli?
    I LOVE THIS POST! thank you…..

    *crafty goes to sort rushing thoughts and put them in words*

    me: Come back soon and splash. :)

  37. 2009 July 13

    welcome to our world :D following u on twitter.

    me: :)

  38. 2009 July 13

    We all take decisions based on how we understand life and ourselves at that moment. Yes, the road less travelled is hard to pursue especially when everyone else is taking the safer one and also asking you to follow them. I cannot claim that I had always taken the more difficult road or less travelled one, but it’s also true that I have learnt from my experiences in life that road less travelled might be difficult and not so appealing in the short run, but if you stick by it, sooner or later you are proud of that decision.

    me: Dev, lucky are people who can choose their own path. But we see around and there are so many who are forced on to a path which is not their choice. My heart goes out to them.

  39. 2009 July 13

    I share your taste of poets. In fact with Robert Frost, the way you look at his poems can vary with your own circumstances in life.

    me: Hai na? That’s the beauty and I find him giving a mysterious smile at all interpretations and saying ‘Fools! I didn’t even mean it that way.’. :)

    Welcome to twitter btw :)

    me: Thank you.

  40. 2009 July 14

    I have never been much interested in poetry but once in a while such lines leave me thinking. Its strange but I have been standing on a fork. There are two entirely different lives in front of me depending on what I choose. One is difficult and I will be hurting a lot of people but it will make me happy. The other will make others happy on the expense of my dreams.
    And then I read this post which confused me even more! :(
    Thanks for introducing me to this beautiful piece of music! :)

    me: Uh ho! Amit, I know final decision is going to be yours but if it is any help then going against all popular quotes, I would say that to keep others happy one needs to be happy. If you make a major decision to keep others happy and then you live your life just for the sake of it then what is the purpose?

  41. 2009 July 14

    lovely, lovely poem! Though Emily Dickinson remains my all time fav.
    “IF I can stop one heart from breaking,
    I shall not live in vain”..

    me: Beautiful!

    Sometimes I`m impulsive. Sometimes I think things over before making up my mind. Mostly I just follow my guts. I cant say that I`ve always been fine. I`ve stumbled, fallen down. Been bruised and sometimes broken. But I`m running along, all the same :) :) So I guess at the end of the day,I`ve done well for myself..

    me: You have, Mish. {{Hugs}}

  42. 2009 July 14
    Pal permalink

    I am always confused about this. Most people (especially Indians) firmly believe that the more difficult path is THE ONE to be taken. I think we must follow the heart. Your post reminded me of ‘jab We Met’ where Kareena says, she follows her heart, and wants to be wholly responsible for the outcome.

    me: Oorja asked something similar, do read my reply to her. :)

    I like her character in the film. Even when her character Geet failed she didn’t go back, instead she started a new life. Mostly we see people blaming someone else for their failure. It takes guts to own up. :)

  43. 2009 July 14

    Lovely poem and great post, Solilo!

    I usually don’t think about how life would have turned out ‘the other way’- once you have chosen a road, it’s not possible to return to the same crossroads and choose differently.

    ‘Second-guessing’ only leads to regrets one can do nothing about!

    me: Thank you Manju. :)

  44. 2009 July 14

    the new photo on banner looks like satya sai baba!!!!!!!!! :P :P :P

    me: Poda dai! Unne suttiduven :lol: :lol:

    I am still editing the header.

    • 2009 July 14

      NO it doesnt!! :P :P :P

      Apoopan did you get the glasses I told you to get? :P

      me: :kiss:

      • 2009 July 14

        @indy, still need to buy glassses. :P :P

        @Don Sololiya, omg, now you are threatening to shoot me………. :lol:

        me: Ha..ha..ha..

  45. 2009 July 14

    hey just check this link…

    if you remove your hand… wont you look a lot similar to this :

    http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2151/1562177111_572650887e.jpg

    me: As long as I don’t balloon up like her…I am fine. Ha..ha..ha..

    • 2009 July 14

      my imagination is going beserk na… !!

      me: Why are you imagining so much..anyways?

      I didnt even remember that heroines name but i found out… !!

      Indi’s old pic used to look like Deepika Padukone is blogging under this secret name !!!!! :P :P

      • 2009 July 14

        Deepika Padukone??? And yet you called her ‘Di’??? Kya baat hai…

        Wonder where Indy is floating? :D But I like this pic of hers better actually!

        • 2009 July 14

          ha ha… !!! but i first discovered and made sure she was not Deepika !!! lol… !!!!!!!! and i agree this pic is better !!!!

          • 2009 July 15

            @Rakesh and Dhiren thank you hai :D

            Dhiren your imgination is in the ‘hyper’ mode :P

            @Rakesh your son is cute :)

  46. 2009 July 14
    Bins permalink

    I often find myself in situations where I have to choose. I follow my heart. Sometimes I make mistakes but I am normally better off if it was ‘my’ mistake. I hate when people make choices for me.

    me: It is always better to make your own choices in life.

  47. 2009 July 14

    I just want to enjoy the journey.

    If OG thinks you look like Sai Baba, then I sure do sound like one with that line!

    Cheers,

    Quirky Indian

    me: We have attained nirvana. He needs that bulb on his head to pretend. :smirk:

  48. 2009 July 14

    Oh, My…Solilo, by now I have forgotten the post, scrolling down…is there an easier way to jump to comment form. I know I am late but this late!!I feel like crying…not fair…ithna neeche! No way! Now what was the blog about?!

    me: Sindhu, there is a link at the beginning which says jump to comment box. You don’t have to scroll down. :arrow:

  49. 2009 July 14
    craftyshines permalink

    I took the one less traveled by,
    And that has made all the difference

    Undoubtedly a masterpiece Soli…..this poem has cut through to even the most poetry-averse human, with its sheer core of thought.

    It’s close to me and u brought this up on a post, it got me overwhelmed with emotions and too many thoughts…..

    The road less traveled…..i will not brag that I chose it, soli. I was too young and preferred the “more traveled” way. I was terrified of this path, but was compelled to walk it.

    So manty times I tired out, I wanted to go back, I longed for company… but I had come too far…but somewhere soli, I don’t know when, I changed. The child who ached to turn and run out grew up and stood straight and determined…

    The point of ramble was, now I wish to be on this untravelled path. By choice. Why?
    Because of who it has made me…

    There are two paths, and at the end of each path, there will reach a “new me”. And I choose to be the “me” that comes through the untravelled path. The untravelled path is not for cowards, but if one does happen to go through it, they will be a coward no more! I’ve lived by the saying “If it doesn’t kill you, it will make you stronger”

    The path untravelled, that this coward was pushed onto, had transformed her into the daredevil she is… and I cannot dream of walking any other path, lest I should lose my daredevilry!! :)

    It has surely made all the difference. When today a million voices tell me “No, you can’t, you shan’t” it was becoz I have walked this path, that now I can smile at them, and once again choose to take a new untravelled path…..

    The untravelled path is a “must travel” for all of us….coz in the trodden path, we become predictable humans coming thru, but when we walk out of the untrodden path, we become someone bigger than our fears and limitations!!

    I related to this poem much later in life than when I first read it in my English text book… Thanks for this post soli! Muahs! :)

    Since we are on poetry, Let me ramble on!!!!!!!!!
    *crafty pats soli to pay more attention* :P

    My ultimate favourite is Death Be Not Proud by John Donne. The arrogance and the smirk this poem holds spells attitude to me….i love it for its sheer attitude.
    One short sleep past, we wake eternally,
    And death shall be no more; death, thou shalt die

    And I love Requiescat by Oscar Wilde. Oscar Wilde’s poetry and some short stories for kids were what I’d like to call a scene of immense tragedy, but with awesome lighting effects….he wrote the most heart-wrenching of verses, and yet, it was soft, mellow, like some soft light falling….

    Sigh! Soli, look what u started!!!! Now how do I stop?????????

    To end *finally*
    I hated poetry in school. Absolutely detested. Because there was a teacher who would analyse it and tell me what its supposed to mean. Which is so silly!
    I don’t think poetry can be analysed. Its so so personal!!! Endless connotations….why dissect and dictate…..

    What makes me laugh, can make u cry…poetry is a form that evokes the deepest of emotions…very close to music….why analyse…we never analyse what emotion a particular music note needs to evoke…why poetry? Sometimes Soli, have u noticed that when a poem in set in a rhythm, just merely reading it is like music?

    Okay! I am done with my post erm comment here Soli! soli?
    *wakes up a snoring soli drooling on pillow* :P

    Once again (coz I can’t express it) thank u for this timely post! Muahs & HUGS!

    me: Crafty, read every word of it. No..I didn’t snore and drool. Ha..ha..ha.. All I will say is that, you did good Crafty. :kiss: :kiss:

  50. 2009 July 14
    craftyshines permalink

    and lovely lovely header pic soli!!!!!!!
    now i can half imagine u!!! :D

    all these new avatars!!!
    Soli in deep profound thoughts – *wonder what to make for lunch*

    me: Yes. That’s the most important decision I make in my everyday life. :smirk:

    Indy, my sweet KRS, at her mocking best – *ha! these fools believe anything i say*

    Hitchy where he wants to be – *Wadiyaan mera daaman….*

    EOG & Kislay in Mafia style – *so what if it’s night, we wanna wear these sunglasses*

    tee hee! I am loving it!!!!!!!!!! :D

    me: Since now I have one on my header, I changed my gravatar.

  51. 2009 July 15

    Frost used to be one of my favorites too. Another of is nice ones is Fire and Ice. For some reason it haunts me time and again!

    me: Oh! that is haunting, Gauri.

    Here’s some food for thought – if nobody wants to travel the beaten path, would that, in fact be considered the road less traveled? :)

    -g
    me: Frost’s title suggests any path which was not taken is ‘the road not taken’. Now the road less traveled is more or less what you mentioned. :)

  52. 2009 July 15

    I too have travelled a path less trodden, changing my career line…but though I have had pangs in between, I am generally happy that I took this path. One prerequisite to take the path less travelled is to be strong and confident, both of which I was not, but am slowly acquiring it and NOW I feel it was worth the effort…Great words, Solilo…

    me: That’s all that matters, Sindhu…alle? When we are happy with the path chosen…tough or easy.

    Thank you. :)

  53. 2009 July 15

    Way long back… definitely took the road less traveled by, its full of potholes, rocky, love the smooth rides when they come and yet I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    It has made me what I am, my mistakes,my accomplishments are my own….

    I simply loved what coffee angel had to say, its as though she read my mind..

    but at the end what really matters is that, we are happy with our choice.

    loved this post soilo, and now I’m gonna go and read all the comments… u got so many here :P

    and Welcome to Twitter!

    *hoping u’ll have a help guide for there too, soon :P

    me: Ha..ha..ha..

  54. 2009 July 18

    ting-tong!ting-tong!Whats up?? A loooooooong post in the offing??? All well I hope :)

    me: Thanks for checking, Deeps. Just taking a brief blog break and enjoying summer with kiddo. :)

    • 2009 July 19

      Ok then,have fun! pass on my ummas to Peanutkutty :) :)

      me: Sure. Ummas to Namnam and you. :kiss:
      (the reason for brief break is the next post. :) )

  55. 2009 July 18

    I have always loved both these poems of Frost, loved learning them, loved teaching them and have always gotten lost on both the roads.
    wonderful post

    me: Thanks Mampi.

  56. 2009 July 20
    Nino's Mum permalink

    Thought provoking post.
    My ‘big decision’ poem is this one:

    Che Fece … Il Gran Refiuto – by C. P. Cavafy

    For some people the day comes
    when they have to declare the great Yes
    or the great No. It’s clear at once who has the Yes
    ready within him; and saying it,

    he goes from honor to honor, strong in his conviction.
    He who refuses does not repent. Asked again,
    he’d still say no. Yet that no—the right no—
    drags him down all his life.

    me: Beauiful! where have you been, NM? Missed ya.

  57. 2009 July 21
    Meira permalink

    What do I read…The post or the comment section?:P Both are equally engrossing.

    me: :)

  58. 2009 July 29

    I follow the theory of not regretting.
    At a point in time when i had certain set of information which my mind could process that time, i took a sound judgement. :)

    me: :)

  59. 2009 July 30

    I have sometimes taken path less traveled or never traveled, and generally been glad :) I think if one just chooses the path that suits one, without bothering too much about how many others are taking it one should be fine. I find trodden path(s) may not be right for everyone, we can not really generalise, so it better to follow your own path…

    me: :)

  60. 2009 August 1

    This has to be one of my best loved poems as well.

    And I have to help std nine students try to interpret it :) Tough job. But because of a peek into his biography and his own life, I have always taken this to be autobiographical in nature, and therefore the sigh is positive, the difference is positive, fo rme, that is….
    If there is someone who feels otherwise in class, they say so, and rationalize. And that is it.

    One of the poems that really generates much discussion, and sometimes argument :)

    me: I wish I could be your student, Ushus. :)

    In life, yes, there have been times I have taken the road less travelled, and yes, it has made a difference. The sigh is one of contentment at the choice I made then :) Perhaps that is why I like to interpret it the way I do :) :)

    me: Just so happy to see you back. Abhi and I missed you every single day.

  61. 2009 August 2

    Clearly,as you have mentioned he wanted to confuse . In a way he was portraying paradox.
    If he thought that he was successful then clearly the sigh points out to the sigh of relief and the word difference points out to it’s positive sound.

    But,what we can surely say is that he didn’t intended to portraying these lines in a motivational way.

    me: Oh! he didn’t. He wanted to confuse and he said so too.

  62. 2009 August 4

    One of my favorite poems.. It makes me think of different things when I am in different mood.. sometimes it seems to me like a regret and sometimes satisfaction.. sometimes I feel as if the poet wants to convince himself that he has done the right thing… may be.. coz well he knows he hasnt?

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